Counseling

Counseling is resolution-oriented in that it focuses on the issue(s) for which we seek therapy. Counseling facilitates both self-differentiation and growth and, in that respect, can challenge us as person or couple, yet self-differentiation and growth are necessary to resolve our life’s problems and difficulties, as we cannot solve them with the same thinking that caused them.

The issue(s) for which we seek counseling is seldom, if ever, the problem. Merely focusing on our issues prevents us from seeing or becoming aware of the dynamics that inform and define them; dynamics that involve our family, ancestral and cultural heritage. Our life’s challenges aren’t only self-caused, unless we believe that we are the center of the universe or the source of our inter-dependent relationships.

Conflicts and difficulties drive us to evolve and, as such, they are a natural part of life. How we approach and deal with them, emotionally speaking, is what counseling, in essence, addresses. Counseling is therapeutic and, as such, focuses on how we relate to ourselves or, in case of a couple, how we—partners, lovers, spouses—relate to each other.

Christoph provides counseling to both individuals and couples, adapting his approach to the issues in question and the dynamics involved. His counseling perspective is informed by Bert Hellinger’s systemic resolution philosophy, Robert Kegan’s developmental psychology and Irvin Yalom’s existentialism.